Proposing can be one of the most nerve-racking things a man will have to do in his life. There’s so many different things to get perfect that it can make him feel very under pressure such as; choosing the perfect engagement ring, the perfect setting to propose, the perfect words to say. It’s a lot to think about, so here’s a list of do’s and don’ts for that extra bit of help along the way.
DON’T
Don’t try and re-enact one of her favourite movies where the ring gets put into food, gets found and she’s the happiest girl in the world and can’t wait to marry you. Some might say it’s romantic but what’s romantic about a trip to hospital or a ring covered in red wine jus?
Don’t do it in front of a huge crowd of people that will all stop and listen, just in case she says no. It will be terribly embarrassing and will most probably put you off proposing for life.
Don’t ask to be put on the big screen of a sports game, unless this is what your girlfriend has always dreamed of, there’s nothing less romantic than being surrounded by loud sweaty men and having your engagement publicly aired.
Don’t do it if you’re not 100% sure she’s going to say yes. If you really want this to be perfect then you’ve got to know that she wants to marry you, maybe bring up a conversation on the idea a while before you plan on proposing then you know you’re not wasting your time.
DO
Do it somewhere that means something to both of you, like where you first met or where you shared something special.
Do think through how you’re going to ask the all-important question, you can’t just say “will you marry me?” Build it up letting her know why she’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Do make it a unique proposal that no one else has done, don’t make it all cliché and predictable. You want to surprise her and make her feel like the luckiest woman in the world. Think back on your whole relationship and choose ideas representing things that you have experienced together and make it special to the two of you.
Last but not least, do make sure you buy the perfect engagement ring. You might already know that she wants to choose her own engagement ring, in that case present her with a special gift knowing that she will get to choose her own ring. If not, ask her mum. Mum’s always know best and will know exactly which engagement ring she would like, this will also take a little weight off of your shoulders knowing that the best and most important part of getting engaged is perfect.
Gabriella Chilton, ComparetheDiamond.com (formerly diamondgeezer.com)